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Denying Hurts: the Forgiveness & Essential Oil Connection – Part 1

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You [God] desire truth in the inward parts. And in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom. Psalm 51:6 (NKJV)
“Buck up, it’s not that bad”. “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me”.  “Don’t rock the boat”! Sayings like these can lead us to stuff feelings like anger or shame in the closet of denial.  Uncovering these and the coping mechanisms that we use to cover damaging emotions related to deep wounds is the first part of the…

Forgiveness Process

  1. Uncovering your anger and coping mechanisms (denying hurts)
  2. Deciding to forgive
  3. Working on forgiveness
  4. Discovery and release from emotional prison 1

When a person buries strong emotions such as anger or shame, destructive coping mechanisms can develop:

  1. Desire for Control/Criticism – controlling and/or criticizing others to avoid facing your own emotions.
  1. Low Self Esteem, Self-Doubt – feeling unloved or rejected as children and adults can lead to difficulty making any decisions.
  1. “Bursts” of Emotion – exaggerated responses to everyday occurrences. 2
  1. Addictions – (Eating, Shopping, Alcohol, Drugs, People, Pleasing People) numbing the emotions. 3

If you identify with any of the above “coping mechanisms”, you can ask yourself the following questions that Dr. Enright, the author of Forgiveness is a Choice suggests:

  1. “Has injury caused permanent change in your life or changed your worldview?
  2. Are you afraid to expose shame or guilt?
  3. Have you been obsessed about the offender?
  4. Has anger effected your health?4

These questions may have stirred up buried soot into your consciousness (as they did for me).  The very means of trying to escape our hurts actually keeps us captive.  The good news is that God has created a healing balm through the power of His Word and essential oils He has created.   Frankincense and Myrrh, the precious gifts that were given to The Savior Jesus, Prince of Peace, are also a resource for us.  Research has shown that Frankincense can help relieve depression.5 Both Frankincense6 and myrrh may also help reduce anxiety related to harboring resentments.7

You may already be aware of people that you need to forgive, but just can’t go there.   In the next blog, I will cover the topics on WHY SHOULD I FORGIVE? There are several good reasons.  God desires to reveal truth in the inmost parts so that He can impart His comfort and wisdom – to step out of the dirty closet and into the FRESH LAND OF FREEDOM.

Frankincense and Myrrh are available for sale in our online store.

Suggested Readings:

“Aromatherapy for Health Professionals” by Shirley Price
“Deadly Emotions” by Don Colbert, M.D.
“Don’t Forgive Too Soon” by Dennis Lynn
“Forgiveness is a Choice” by Robert Enright








1Enright, Robert D. Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, 2001. 78. Print.

2Colbert, Don. Deadly Emotions: Understand the Mind-Body-Spirit Connection That Can Heal or Destroy You. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2003. 54-56 Print.

3Linn, Dennis, Sheila Linn, and Matthew Linn. Don’t Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal. New York: Paulist Press, 1997. 36-37 Print.

4 Enright, 2001. 78 Print.

5Ye-qui, Zhang, et al. “Anti-depression effect of frankincense essential oil.” Natural Product Research and Development 27.1 (2015): 31-34.

6Adake, Prabhakar, Mahalaxmi S. Petimani, M. Jayaraj, and S. N. Rao. “Preclinical evaluation of Boswellia serrata for anxiolytic activity.” International Journal of Basic & Clinical Pharmacology 4.3 (2015), 551-555. Print. doi:10.18203/2319-2003.ijbcp20150038

7Price, Len. Aromatherapy for Health Professionals. Comp. Shirley Price. London: Elsevier, 2012. 230. Print and CD Rom.

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Roseann Dennerlein

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Roseann Dennerlein, also known as Rosie, is a Christian clinical aromatherapist, a Licensed Professional Counselor, and holds a Masters in Divinity degree. She has a passion to share about the healing power of God through Jesus, Scripture, prayer and God’s Creation. Rosie incorporates her training and her personal journey of healing into her writings and vlogs.